Often times, more times than not, when the first sign of abuse occurs we do not leave. We feel that we will be able to change the situation and the abuse will cease. If there is one thing that I want to make clear to you it is that, if there is a first time, there will be a second, third and twentieth.
Stop being naive and believing that the first time is the only time! If they did once, then it gets easier and more justifiable each time in the eyes of the abuser. It is not to say that a abuser can not stop abusing and turn their life around, but it will take intervention from Jesus.
If a abuser repents, trusts Jesus as their one and only Lord and Savior, they can stop. All things are possible with God.
Read Matthew 19:26
If you try to do it yourself, your abuser may may give the initial appearance that they are getting better when they are not. They may even resent you for trying to change them and take it out on you.
It always, always will get worse before it gets better. Time can only heal once you are out of the situation as a survivor. While you are in the situation, time just means that your abuser has more time to fester up rage and anger to abuse again.
Remember, God made you wonderful and you do not deserve abuse. Get out of the situation and know that as God's child you deserve the absolute best in life.