I can't begin to tell you important that it is that you stop calling yourself a victim. It is not to say that you are not experiencing domestic violence. However, it is critical that you constantly speak of being a survivor.
There is so much power in words, don't underestimate the power of the words that you tell yourself. Even when your abuser is abusing you physically and verbally it is critical that you continue to tell yourself who you are according to God. God created you to be fearfully and wonderfully made. Read Power of Words
Read Psalm 139:14 (King James Version)
Read Abuse and The Miracle of Recovery by Joyce Meyer
The more that you continue to think and treat yourself as a victim, you will give more power and control to your abuser. The very moment that you begin to speak as a survivor, you will begin to act as a survivor and take the power and control back from your abuser.
The healing process can only begin when you take on a I will survive attitude. Focus on what a survivor would say and do. It is impossible to do things as a survivor without first taking the attitude of a survivor.